Monday, April 9, 2007

Funny How Time Slips Away

It's a little crazy to me to think how quickly the years have flown by, but Scott and I have now been married seven years. It really has flown by. I feel like we just got married, although our lives are so completely different than they were when we were getting married. The things I worry about now so different than the concerns I had back then.

Our actual anniversary fell on Easter Sunday. Not exactly the best time to celebrate an anniversary, so we went on Saturday night instead. We spent the weekend with Scott's mom and she kept the boys Saturday night while we went to a Montgomery Biscuits game. That's right. The best name in Minor League baseball. Ever.

Had it not been 20-some-odd degrees outside that night and blustery, it would have been grand. As it was, it was still pretty fun. Scott's brother has a few connections and so we ended up in the Mayor's box with seats adjacent to the swanky enclosed box. One of the other city departments was borrowing it that night, so there was no fancy food, but that's just as well because as we discovered, they actually serve my favorite food...biscuits. How awesome is that? The Montgomery Biscuits have chicken biscuits at their games!!

Of course, they have the more traditional baseball fare of hot dogs, brats, peanuts, popcorn, cracker jack, etc. But I was pretty happy with my chicken biscuit.

And with my honey. Despite the cold weather and very strange company we had a good time. In fact, we've enjoyed so much one-on-one time lately between our NY trip, our anniversary date, and Scott's gigs that I'm starting to feel human -- and, perhaps more important -- like a woman again. Having kids is great, but I didn't realize it meant sacrificing all the great things about why you got married in the first place. And I think we are both realizing now that you don't have to. It doesn't make you a bad parent to pay more attention to your marriage and a little less to your kids. In fact, I think if it makes your marriage stronger or reinforces it against the forces of life, then it makes you a better parent. I think it's also important to give your kids a sense of what makes a happy marriage and spending time with your partner is pretty high up there.

I've never really understood couples who never did things together. I'm not advocating spending every minute with your partner; you'd have nothing to contribute. But we know couples who never do anything together, but are constantly going out with friends. I think we both do a couple of things a month in the evenings solo or with friends while the other cares for the kids and until recently when we found some decent sitters, it was pretty depressing knowing that the one evening a month we could spend away from home we'd have to do without each other.

Thankfully, we seem to have crossed some hurdle in finding reliable sitters and getting Scott's mom to work with us to keep her grandsons. Hopefully I am not jinxing us by writing about it.